“What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills – your EQ — not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests.”
— Daniel Goleman
When students are connected to themselves in every way—physically, mentally, and emotionally—magic happens. They become clear-headed, confident, and eager to explore the unknown. They work better together, share stronger communications, and overcome obstacles to discovery with ease. Having emotional intelligence opens gateways to powerful learning. The keys are here in Emotional Intelligence in Students.
Emotional intelligence is our ability to “identify, evaluate, control, and express our emotions.” The benefits of having emotional intelligence include:
- Increased self-awareness
- Stress management
- Higher motivation
- More empathy and compassion for others
- Better communication and decision-making
- Better relationships
When students work on having it, they learn to better understand themselves and others. In turn, this translates to better learning through resiliency, determination, and communicative abilities. Conversely, lacking in emotional awareness makes learning more difficult because of the effect it has on the mind and body. When we feel out of control of ourselves and how we feel, everything is harder—including learning
Emotional intelligence involves:
- Emotional literacy
Recognizing your own feelings and the feelings of others.
- Managing emotions
Being able to control your emotions effectively.
- Developing empathy
Understanding and sharing the feelings of others.
- Intrinsic motivation
Pushing yourself to meet the goals you have set.
Thus Emotional Intelligence is highly important in a teen’s development. There is considerable evidence pointing to its positive role in helping students deal with stress, develop relationships, and handle the transitions facing them.The concepts of social and emotional functioning play a key role in adolescents and teenagers. Emotional Intelligence in teens covers their ability to use emotions effectively and productively in an adaptive way.
In fact, the concept has become of incredible interest not only pedagogically, but to everyone who’s realized that today’s teens are going to make up tomorrow’s workforce.
EI helps us manage negative emotions and our behaviors in response to them. So, does it impact on how teens and students perform academically?
Some research does, in fact, suggest a relationship between Emotional Intelligence and academic achievement. In one study of Education students at university, Self-Emotionn Appraisal and Understanding of Emotion were revealed to have positive significant linkages with their academic performance on assessments.
Psychologist Bradley Busch, author of The Science of Learning recommends that teachers practice Active Listening.
Based on the argument that students’ mindsets, attitudes, and motivations are key to persistence and effort, Busch suggests actively listening to them is critical. It’s a concept encouraged by other practitioners, such as EI Coach Anne Loehr, who recommends facilitating two-way, truly interactive dialogue with students by:
- focusing on both yourself and the student during dialogue;
- being aware of your non-verbal cues;
- validating that you have listened through appropriate responses; and
- maintaining awareness of the environment.
Self Awareness Exercises
Self-awareness involves becoming attuned to our internal dialogue, exercises to help build self-awareness can be a first step toward challenging these irrational processes. Helping students develop self-awareness, therefore, is one means of helping them deal with challenges like exam stress or test anxiety.
Returning to Busch’s recommendations, this could involve getting students to keep a diary. It’s one way to help improve their meta-cognition, by inviting them to notice patterns or trends in their thoughts and behavior.
Thus,we cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what happens in us — -how we can take it, what we do with it —- and that is what really counts in the end.
“When awareness is brought to an emotion, power is brought to your life.” – Tara Meyer Robson